Dude, I go out and I do see the band when they come to NJ, but I\'m not driving 2 or more hours each way to go to a show that\'s going to last no more than 3 hours. I missed some shows in NJ last year because I had a family member in the hospital and my grandfather died. I went to the last Donnegals show after my aunt passed away. I go to shows when I can, get off my fuckin back.
Don\'t listen to all these ball breakers. I respect you for being a good husband and dad, and for not trapsing around the northeast.
There comes a time in a man/woman\'s life when you just need to do what you gotta do. You can\'t be driving hours and hours away and leaving behind your responsibility. you can\'t. I would be fuming mad if i had a man who did that.
You see them when you can, that\'s the best we can all do.
I think the point al is trying to make here, is that you can\'t generalize all spouses like that. SOME wont care at all if you wanted to go out and travel to a show (galenas, oldnewbie, scott, elisa, etc) some will go as a couple (todd/robyn, jen/brandan) though these don\'t usually have kids, or the kids are older, or if they do they still go, just not that often as couples (oldnewbie, scott, probably more) and some have the music being something that their spouses either don\'t "get" or there are any number of other reasons and they simply don\'t go that often but do when they can.
point being, just because db\'s and skys spouses wouldn\'t allow them to go out/they wouldn\'t want to leave their spouces at home alone doesn\'t mean that al\'s girlfriend would care if he went, or would even encourage it.
everyone\'s different. isn\'t it great?
point being, just because db\'s and skys spouses wouldn\'t allow them to go out/they wouldn\'t want to leave their spouses at home alone doesn\'t mean that al\'s girlfriend would care if he went, or would even encourage it.
everyone\'s different. isn\'t it great?
I think ryan would agree with me here....by no means, am I NOT allowed to go to shows. I choose not to go to certain shows out of respect because mark cannot. He works just about 24/7. Traveling out of state or out of town when you have a) a mortgage in this economy, b) a loving partner who would like to have you home at night and c) in ryan\'s case, a baby and a preggers wife....is just not really that responsible financially and/or emotionally.
I really think the key to a happy relationship IS having different activities away from each other and being different people YET its also reaching compromises. Going to 3423743429857923 shows a year with or withour your significant other is good for some but maybe not the recipe for others. I survive quite well with my one-three shows a year.
Yes, Paul, life is good and its awesome we are all individuals and different.
What I think Yoda was trying say is: I\'d like to have a some shows in NJ once in awhile, because when there are NJ shows, I can and choose to go.
I think the point al is trying to make here, is that you can\'t generalize all spouses like that. SOME wont care at all if you wanted to go out and travel to a show (galenas, oldnewbie, scott, elisa, etc) some will go as a couple (todd/robyn, jen/brandan) though these don\'t usually have kids, or the kids are older, or if they do they still go, just not that often as couples (oldnewbie, scott, probably more) and some have the music being something that their spouses either don\'t "get" or there are any number of other reasons and they simply don\'t go that often but do when they can.
point being, just because db\'s and skys spouses wouldn\'t allow them to go out/they wouldn\'t want to leave their spouces at home alone doesn\'t mean that al\'s girlfriend would care if he went, or would even encourage it.
everyone\'s different. isn\'t it great?
haha, after only reading the (second-to-)last post & nothing else...
edit: some will go as a couple once in a while, and solo once in a while too! (todd/robyn)
I think the point al is trying to make here, is that you can\'t generalize all spouses like that. SOME wont care at all if you wanted to go out and travel to a show (galenas, oldnewbie, scott, elisa, etc) some will go as a couple (todd/robyn, jen/brandan) though these don\'t usually have kids, or the kids are older, or if they do they still go, just not that often as couples (oldnewbie, scott, probably more) and some have the music being something that their spouses either don\'t "get" or there are any number of other reasons and they simply don\'t go that often but do when they can.
point being, just because db\'s and skys spouses wouldn\'t allow them to go out/they wouldn\'t want to leave their spouces at home alone doesn\'t mean that al\'s girlfriend would care if he went, or would even encourage it.
everyone\'s different. isn\'t it great?
edit: some will go as a couple once in a while, and solo once in a while too! (todd/robyn)
did you read the whole thing? :sigh:
:lol: your posts = way too long!
if you have a point to make, make it short for us newbs!
oh, and I just noticed peaches\' balls pic - ehniiice... might have my new avatar there :stoned:
point being, just because db\'s and skys spouses wouldn\'t allow them to go out/they wouldn\'t want to leave their spouses at home alone doesn\'t mean that al\'s girlfriend would care if he went, or would even encourage it.
everyone\'s different. isn\'t it great?
I think ryan would agree with me here....by no means, am I NOT allowed to go to shows. I choose not to go to certain shows out of respect because mark cannot. He works just about 24/7. Traveling out of state or out of town when you have a) a mortgage in this economy, b) a loving partner who would like to have you home at night and c) in ryan\'s case, a baby and a preggers wife....is just not really that responsible financially and/or emotionally.
I really think the key to a happy relationship IS having different activities away from each other and being different people YET its also reaching compromises. Going to 3423743429857923 shows a year with or withour your significant other is good for some but maybe not the recipe for others. I survive quite well with my one-three shows a year.
Yes, Paul, life is good and its awesome we are all individuals and different.
What I think Yoda was trying say is: I\'d like to have a some shows in NJ once in awhile, because when there are NJ shows, I can and choose to go.
Let me make this point
crystal clear - my wife doesn\'t "not allow" me to go to shows; if anything, she encourages me to go out. The thing is, there are other things out there to do than go to a Breakfast show. And yes, most of the time, I would rather spend an evening with my wife and daughter than go to a concert, sorry.
That being said, there have been 5 shows this years, none less than 2 hours away; not going to happen. As for going to see the band when they\'re in my back-yard (NJ), there haven\'t been that many opportunities lately: 3/21/08 (I was there even though it was my wife\'s birthday the next day); 7/10/08 (An opening slot on a Thursday night an hour away, not going to happen with work at 8:30 the next day); 7/25/08 (I was there and my aunt passed away that morning); 9/13/08 (I didn\'t go because my grandfather died and I was with my family). That was the TB love for NJ in 2008.
I\'ve love going to see the band, but my wife, daughter and family come first. If there\'s a band that I want to see comes to my area, I make it a point to try and get there, whether it\'s The Meadowlands, Giants Stadium, Prudential Center or Garden State Arts Center.
Bottom line, if the banned played north jersey more, I\'d be around more. There\'s nothing more I can add to this conversation...
you can please some people sometimes.
anyway, I knew someone would have a problem with the line "let them go out" which is why I followed it with "they wouldn\'t want to leave their spouses at home alone" :shrug:
and slow down jocelyn, every time I think of a joke lately, you\'ve already posted it! :lol:
No harm Paul... I knew what you meant... I felt like I needed to clarify my point because some people would jump on it and run...
:lol: your posts = way too long!
if you have a point to make, make it short for us newbs!
oh, and I just noticed peaches\' balls pic - ehniiice... might have my new avatar there :stoned:
robyn, i think your confusing who\'s posting what around here... either way, let\'s just keep my balls outta this...
whatever man, keep your excuses to yourself. frankly i could give two
**** if you went to a show or not. i\'m more annoyed at the fact that your always complaining about not going to shows and how far away they are and how you have family responsibilities..... we all have responsibilities, man up.
yer all f*cking whacked i\'m outta here
