dare is severely over the top and in fact achieves the opposite of what it intends to do. when i first smoked pot and realized that it wasnt at all what dare made it out to be, i totally disregarded everything i was taught there, even the stuff that was valid. (very little, but still some nonetheless)
as for this situation, i think it\'s terribly irresponsible to smoke pot with your 11 year old child. the younger someone starts using drugs, the more likely they are to develop addiction. during those developmental years, a kid should be learning other methods of coping with life than using drugs. when someone who has spent that time learning healthy coping skill uses drugs, they\'re less likely to develop a problem because they don\'t need to use those drugs as a way of dealing. someone who has no other coping mechanisms would, without even realizing it, use drugs for this purpose because it is much easier than learning healthy ways of coping with life. i mean, who WASN\'T an insecure mess in middle school?? throw drugs into the mix and it\'s a recipe for early stages of addiction. for your kid\'s high school graduation, sure light one up with him/her, but teaching an 11 year old that whenever he does something he\'s supposed to do, he gets to get ripped is just asking for trouble.